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Sorry, Not Sorry

Me at 5

Laughing has always been my thing.

I had a good laugh this afternoon. At my own expense. Actually, I think I’m a pretty funny person. But definitely more in the slapstick humor than witty, stand-up comedian way. I once opened a door into my own face. Then there was this mid-air flip to avoid landing on my rear while using roller-blades. Remember those? Yeah, I’m pretty sure even without falling it looked rather humorous. And then there was the time I managed to slap myself in the face with cheese. I’m still not sure what was going on there. And, yes, this was all completely sober. And, yes, I laughed at each of these and many more. If I didn’t laugh at myself, I would miss a lot of opportunities. And it is the best medicine.

Back to this afternoon. I was leaving the doctor’s office needing to turn left from a side street without a traffic signal onto a four lane road. That is often somewhat busy, but “small-town busy”. As I came up to the stop, there was the perfect opening. Yay! But as is common during Midwest winters, there was a bit of an icy patch under me. My wheels spun for a moment and then caught, startling me a little and as I sailed into my left turn I hollered “Woohoo!” and laughed. (Besides laughing at myself, I’m apparently also easily entertained).

And then I said, “Sorry.”

Did I mention I was by myself?

Who was I apologizing to?

What was I apologizing for?

And I laughed. And the more I thought about it, the more I laughed. Loud and bold, because that’s my style. Was I apologizing to myself for being myself? Hahahaha! Am I so used to apologizing for my loud self that it’s a reflex? Hahahahaha!

I know I’m not the only one. There are so many of us who apologize for everything (“I’m sorry, but…”), use qualifiers in our speech (In response to compliment: “But I have wrinkles/bags/back fat”), or undermining ourselves (“Did I make sense?” I do this ALL the time!). Or ending every sentence like a raise in tone like asking a question, like you’re not quite sure of what you are saying. Please don’t do that.

Don’t apologize for asking for what you need. Say “Thank you” to compliments. Say what you need to say with confidence.

And stop apologizing for being yourself. You are a unique and beautiful creation. You have strengths and gifts. You are made lovingly to be exactly who you are, to do exactly what you need to do. So raise you head high, adjust your crown, and walk with confidence. You are loved.



A Servant’s Heart



I’ve been thinking a lot today about having a servant’s heart.  It all started this morning during a presentation about ordaining women.

You see, the new church we have been attending in Illinois has been discussing some changes over the last year.  The overseeing body for this denomination ordains women as elders and pastors, yet this church, being much older than the organization, does not.  It was proposed at the annual meeting in the beginning of the year, to consider amending the constitution of this church to include women in these leadership roles.

Unless I am a member before February, I will not be voting. Honestly, I’m still right in the middle on this one.  The church has invited a number of speakers to share on both sides of the topic.  And I believe they have all done a great job.   Being raised in a church where only men were the elders and pastors, I’m a little more comfortable with this way of doing things.  Yet, the arguments for ordaining make a lot of sense as well.  But this post isn’t really about women in church leadership.  This post is about having a servant’s heart.


In the presentation today we were introduced to the Hebrew word “ezer”.  This is used in Genesis 2:18 “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper (ezer) suitable for him.”

This is that concept of “helpmeet”, these complementary roles of men and women. But this is not the only place we see this.  Here are just a couple:

Deuteronomy 33:29 “Blessed are you, O Israel; Who is like you, a people saved by the Lord, Who is the shield of your help (ezer) and the sword of your majesty!  So your enemies will cringe before you, and you will thread upon their high places.

Psalm 33:20 “Our soul waits for the Lord; He is our help (ezer) and shield.

Wait a minute?  ‘Ezer’ used for both women and God?  Wha?

I know you’re thinking, “where are you going with this, MamaFoster?” and “When does the ‘servant’s heart’ come into this?”

Right here.

God is awesome.  No, Awesome, with a capital A.  He is omniscient, all powerful, majestic, the Lord of lords and the King of kings.

But He’s also this:

Jesus Washes the Disciples' Feet John 13:5

“so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist.  After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ fee, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him.” John 13:4,5

Jesus led by serving.  And He served in love. And we are commanded to do the same.  “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ” Ephesians 5:21

Which got me thinking…

What would having a servant’s heart look like in my life?

In my relationships with customers?  In my church? In my marriage?  In parenting?  In friendships?

My prayer tonight: Lord, create in me a new heart, one which serves others in love.